Sunday, March 02, 2014

Goodbye Dear Friend

Goodbye dear friend. You've had a relatively long life and I'm really sad to see you go. I can remember how happy I was the day you came into my life. You helped me accomplish so much. You helped me with school work. You saw me through three different jobs. You helped me stay organized. You moved to Las Vegas with me and when I wanted to come back to California, you came back with me too. We've been through a lot together.

Over the last year I saw you slow down a lot, but it was okay. You were still there for me. We still did things together, but I knew time was drawing near that you wouldn't be with me anymore. Today, you died and I mourn your loss. I don't know how I could ever replace you. I mean, really, new macs are expensive.

Saturday, March 01, 2014

Go Ahead and Worry

“Don’t worry.” “Worrying doesn’t solve anything.” Well, that’s stupid. If there’s a problem, I’m going to worry about. I’m going to THINK about it. I’m going to try to figure out a way to solve the problem. I get it. People are just trying to be helpful. They want to make you feel better, but I don’t see how telling someone to avoiding think about how to solve a problem is very good advice. Okay, so there may be times you don't think there is much of a problem. That's why you tell the person not to worry about it, but the person worrying may have plenty of other reasons to think it is. You just don't know about them. If you really want to be helpful, ask the person what they are worried about and help them figure out a way to solve their problem. Don't tell them to stop thinking about it. The internet abounds with articles about how to stop worrying. People tend to perceive worrying in a negative way, but it can be a good thing. It's is a process in which mental attempts are made to avoid anticipated potential threats. It can be a very productive function when it leads to constructive action to solve the issue causing the concern. If your worrying is an attempt figure out a way to solve a problem, go ahead and do it. If you can't figure out a way to solve the problem by yourself, talk to someone. Maybe they can think of a solution you can't. Not thinking about a problem doesn't solve anything.